I'm not going to waste much time with saying hi and sorry I
haven't written in awhile. I have a lot
to say and a very short time to get it all out since its currently 630 on a
Monday night and i have kids that i have to get ready for bed and school tomorrow
really soon. This is your warning, if
you are easily ass hurt, hit the back button now. So, lets get this shit started.
There are a lot of things that irritate me, down right piss
me off and make me shake my head. Let's
revisit some of the commandments shall we?
Lets start with Thou shalt not wear pajamas in public. This includes when you take your child to
school. Yes your carebear/spongebob/scooby
pj pants are cute and I'm sure kids think they look awesome because an adult is
rocking a cartoon on their ass. But the
adults you encounter are all silently judging you for looking like a total slob
who rolled out of bed 5 minuted before you had to walk out the door. It takes all of like 30 seconds to slip on a
pair of jeans and maybe another 10 seconds to button them up, provided they fit
you properly anyway, please for the love of all things holy PUT ON SOME GOD
DAMNED PANTS!!!! This also goes for
slippers. If you don't want to bend your
lazy ass over to tie your shoes invest in some flip flops. They even make flip flop slippers that are
soft and warm on the bottom of your foot but still look enough like a regular
flop to wear them in public. Brush your
nappy ass hair. I do not want to see you
out in public looking like you have had a family of birds nesting in your
hair. To add to that, wash it please and
if you don't at least put it up so no one can tell its oily. I get it, I'm a mom, I know how hard it can
be some days to get a shower and actually wash your hair and body without
having to jump out, soap streaming down your face into your eyes and blinding
you, tripping over the bathroom rug in your haste to find the towel that you
left on the counter, to go break up a fight or find out what that huge banging
sound was. I totally understand. But let me tell you something that you may
not have thought about. Ready? The way you look reflects on your child(ren)
and more often than not they are embarrassed of the way you look when you drop
them off at school looking like this. Of
course they wont tell you because they don't want to hurt your feelings, but I
am telling you, they don't want to be seen in public with you looking like a
hobo. Their friends see you and may joke
them about it. The other parents see you
and think to themselves "well I know where little Johnny wont ever be going
to play", that's right sweetheart, your house. If you cant take the time to dress yourself
to take your kid to school then you probably wont wont take care of my kid(s)
to my standard when (s)he is at your house.
So in short, please look at least half ass presentable when you step out
your front door.
Common courtesy. I don't think I have written one about this
yet, I didn't take the time to go look so I may be wrong. But either way, this needs to be said. Say please and thank you. Its not that hard to utter those words in
passing when someone does something nice for you. I know you are too interested in talking on
the phone to whomever but if I stand there and hold the door for you, you need
to do 2 things. The first one is step it
into high gear asshole. You may have all
the time in the world but I am running late to my next stop and I am trying to
be nice. You are the type of person that
I want to let the door go on. If I stand
there and hold it for you, and I wont unless you are 3 steps away or closer,
please move your lazy ass a tad faster and when you walk PAST me to get into
the store you can at the very least nod at me in appreciation. I know, weird concept isn't it? To actually be thankful that someone took 30
seconds out of their day to do something small to be nice to you but it really
is the proper thing to do. For those of
you that don't say thank you, I am the bitch that will loudly say "You're welcome"
as you pass me unnoticed. Don't get an
attitude with me, I was simply giving you the same respect you gave me, and
teaching you a lesson. Another
thing. If you see an elderly person or a
person in a wheelchair HOLD THE FUCKING DOOR FOR THEM, help them get something
off of a low or high shelf if they seem to be struggling to get it on their
own. Don't be a douche nozzle. One day that will be you and the little
asshats of this generation will ignore you as payback for all the times you did
it. Those that are elderly or disabled
NEED the help. Don't ignore them because
you want to get finished with whatever trivial bull shit it is that you are
doing. Even when I am running REALLY
late I still stop to help those that need it because its the right thing to
do. What the hell happened to people actually
caring about others? Is it really so
hard to give a fuck about someone other than yourself? Teach your kids to do the same thing. Just today my wonderful Bub went with me to
the store and on the way out an elderly gentleman was heading to the door, I
was going to hold it for him but before I could even step to the side to get
the door Bub grabbed it and held it for him.
I can not tell you how proud I was of him at that moment. Not so much because he did it, but because he
did it without me having to tell him to do it.
That was his own decision. He has
also given his jacket to a girl who didn't have one that he didn't even know
while outside at school for a fire drill in the cold rain. No one had to tell him to do it and she didn't
ask him to do it. He did it because he
saw that someone else needed help and he was able to help them. Yes, I totally just took the chance to brag
about my most awesometastic 8 year old, but I also told you that because its
pretty fucking sad that an 8 year old knows the right thing to do and most
adults don't. I don't think its that we
have forgotten how to be nice to each other, I think its a case of a few rotten
apples spoiling the bunch. Those who
were nice ran into one too many dickweeds and said fuck it I'm done being nice
if no one appreciates it. Which is
understandable to a point, but how are we ever going to teach our children that
isn't how we are supposed to be unless we lead by example?
Relationships. Mainly
dysfunctional pairings between two seemingly compatible people that can
tolerate each others bull shit. There
are those few rare cases of people that are truly in love and would die without
the other one. My grandparents were one
of those rare couples and my grandmother has been mourning herself to death(literally)
since my grandpa passed away in 2006.
She has lost her mind and when he died she lost her will to live. She would have been dead already except her
body refuses to give it up. Shes super
healthy for an 80 something year old and despite what her mind wants, her body
says not yet. But I'm straying off topic
here. Then there are those
relationships(for lack of a better term) that shouldn't have ever in a million billion
years happened. The ones that you look
at and say to yourself "what the fuck was s/he thinking?" This usually happens to those with low self esteem, self image issues,
handicaps and the extremely overweight.
Sad but true. More common than
not the man is the asshole and the woman is the one, or more, with one of the previously mentioned things
going on. She is so desperate to find
and keep love that she will do whatever it takes to keep the so called
"man" that "loves" her.
These "men" are predators.
They look for women like this because someone with self respect would never
in a million years be with him. As a
side note this can go either way but I am keeping it simple for myself. When you want to go hang out with a friend
and your "man" gets pissed off about it because you aren't spending
every possible moment with him, you need to leave his ass. In a healthy relationship you maintain your
friendships with other people because you NEED to have friends. Its even worse when he makes you feel guilty
about it. "If you loved me as much
as you say you do then you would want to be with me and not your
friends." Bull shit!!!!! If you loved me you would understand that my
friends were here long before you were and when, and if, I drop your sorry ass
they are the ones that will be here for me.
If he wants you to do things that you don't want to do(mainly sexually)
or you aren't ready for and then tells you that you don't love him if you don't do
them, leave his ass. You are nothing
more than a piece of ass to him. When
your friends tell you that the "relationship" you are in isn't healthy
you need to step back and look at it from another perspective, especially if
they have been in a relationship similar to the one you are in. Learn from their mistakes and save yourself a
lot of heartache and bull shit in the long run.
If he says I love you or wants you to marry him within a few weeks of
meeting, then chances are hes a douchebag and you need to leave him, especially
if you aren't sure of your feelings yet.
Him saying that he loves you at such an early stage in the relationship
is his way of trapping you. Plain and
simple. Women are nurturing
creatures. We are also far more
emotional than men and men know exactly how to play on that shit. If he says he loves you you aren't going to
run as easily because you don't want to hurt him. You will hang around until you are so
emotionally beaten that you actually think that you love him too. You don't, hes made you dependant on him
because hes played on your emotions so much, and secluded you from your
friends(and sometimes family) to the point you feel like no one wants to be
around you but him. That they don't
support of love you anymore and you have to stay with him. Lemme tell you something sweetie, that's bull
shit. We are all still here for you and
will always support you because that's what friends and family are for and
because we love you. So when you finally
realize what has happened we will be here waiting with open arms to welcome you
back to reality and we will help you pick up the shattered pieces of your heart
and soul and we will rebuild you into a stronger woman. ANY kind of abuse should not be tolerated and
you should run as far and as fast as you can as soon as possible. I will even go out on a limb here and say
that if any of my wonderful readers are in this situation you can come to me if
you don't want to go to friends/family. I
will give you an objective opinion and help you as much as possible. If you don't want to put yourself out there by
posting in the comment section below you can email me at mommyto4crazykids@gmail.com. I am always available to help. This goes for men too. Its not always women that get abused.
Well my loves , I would love to stay here and talk to you
forever, and believe me I have LOTS more to say, but I have to go get my kids
ready for bed and school tomorrow. Its a
dirty job but someone has to do it :).
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